Women tend to be, by far, more relationship oriented and sensitive than men. Well, for one thing, you have a special inborn skill in an area he probably finds challenging. How is that possible? Here’s the good news: the success of your marriage does not depend on his conscious cooperation. The truth is, you are the magic in your relationship.
Here’s the good news: if you can say with confidence that you’ve got yourself a basically good man (one who may not be perfect, but who tries), then the success of your marriage does not depend on his conscious cooperation. If anything, having those kinds of expectations regarding everything he does can damage and even destroy your relationship. Your man doesn’t have to give 100%, even if he should, and no amount of coercion on your part is going to change his ability to choose his own path.
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But the 100/100 mentality is one that simply doesn’t work, because it doesn’t take into account free will. It’s true that an ideal partnership, an ideal marriage, would involve each person giving all they have for the benefit of their spouse. Of course, it’s completely understandable they’re trying to save their marriages! But who in this world is enjoys being “reformed” by someone else? I certainly don’t, and your man will not appreciate it either. The only way to really find this perfect setup is to marry a duplicate of yourself! You can’t change another person, though I’ve seen a lot of frustrated wives trying to do just that. The problem with the 100/100 equation is that it requires both parties to be on exactly the same page, with the same levels of understanding and identical priorities. But can you spot the problem with this commonly held ideal? What do you do when you’re willing and committed to doing your part 100% but your spouse or partner is only giving, say, 60%, or even 45%? Is your relationship doomed? Is it time to bring the hammer down on the person you love most? Will that even be effective if you do? Sounds fantastic, doesn’t it? Two people who love each other giving their all to their partner for the rest of their lives ahhh, what a beautiful life that could be. The idea here is that both partners, rather than meeting each other halfway, should ideally give 100% of themselves to the relationship. Have you ever heard a relationship guru say something like this?